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Jun 3, 2020
7 min

Girl Gone Off: On Ending Abuse

Content warning: language, descriptions of violence I had a blog. I really did. But I’m not sure how to share it today, just like I wasn’t sure how to share it on Sunday when I tried to polish it up for my two week blogging deadline. (I have already botched this whole deadline situation, but what can I do now except write anyway?) I wanted to kick start a series of posts, focusing on the dynamic of abuse. I believe that understanding abuse, how and why it perpetuates, is the

Girl Gone Off: Now is a good time to talk about it

Heather C Fazio

Jan 28, 2020
3 min

Girl Gone Off: Now is a good time to talk about it

This photo is a pretty good representation of my brain when I'm in a flare, and fatigue and brain fog are major symptoms of Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA). But I'm very tired (literally) of the word arthritis being the key takeaway of the disease from those who do not understand the full scope of living with it. February 2nd is Rheumatoid Disease Awareness Day so it's important for me to do my part in putting a face to what people believe is just an 'older person's disease.' It's

Girl Gone Off: The "president" is rage tweeting (again)

Heather C Fazio

Jul 24, 2019
2 min

Girl Gone Off: The "president" is rage tweeting (again)

Trump has been rage tweeting for a couple of days now. It's only going to get more outrageous, yet hilarious, in the next 24 hours. Trending on Twitter: #TrumpsTerrifiedofMueller #MuellerReport #Article2 (Why? Keep reading.) #MuellerHearing Don't expect anything crazy tomorrow from Mueller. He states he's sticking to the report - which is perfect. One staunch Republican (Justin Amash) admitted to reading every word and he immediately called for impeachment proceedings, then r

Girl Gone Off: Shiny, happy people are helping to destroy the mental health of their friends

Heather C Fazio

Jun 18, 2019
3 min

Girl Gone Off: Shiny, happy people are helping to destroy the mental health of their friends

There. I said it. This barrage of uplifting and positive memes has overtaken social media. There are a few that offer good advice, or make someone smile, but in reality, you are not contributing to the mental well-being of the people who follow you. Some of your friends are dealing with issues that are very serious, albeit from their perspective. Let them go through what they need to go through to get to the other side of where they want and need to be FOR THEM. Not for you.

Girl Gone Parenting Confession: I Hate Mother's Day

kriskaten

May 10, 2019
3 min

Girl Gone Parenting Confession: I Hate Mother's Day

Hear me out. My daughter is 8. I know that she loves me, based on the mere fact that she wants to be with me practically every second of the day, including while I'm peeing. I don't need a special day of the year to know that, despite the arguments and foot stomping, I am her world and she is mine. So I'm going to be real a minute: all this Hallmark-driven holiday does for me is depress me. Typically for Mother's Day, I receive age appropriate gifts of crayon filled pictures,

Boy Gone Smart: A straight male's perspective on being gay and loving your children

Heather C Fazio

Apr 3, 2019
3 min

Boy Gone Smart: A straight male's perspective on being gay and loving your children

*Language warning Normally I reserve guest posts for women who need or want a space to share something important to them or what may be important to you. On Monday, a male friend reached out and asked me to review something he had written and I think it's important enough to be shared here with his permission. However, he is choosing to remain anonymous. I normally wouldn't allow this because it's possible some would view it as my words, my thoughts, and for whatever reason I

Girl Gone Smart: When a loved one's death brings clarity, it's beyond sad but oddly beautiful

Heather C Fazio

Mar 13, 2019
5 min

Girl Gone Smart: When a loved one's death brings clarity, it's beyond sad but oddly beautiful

This is a notion that has been running through my mind for months and I've struggled to define it or process it myself, however when I expressed it to a friend over a tea yesterday, she was genuinely interested and asked: "Can I ask what you mean by that?" I'm not sure I gave an answer that truly expressed what I meant. It has been more of a feeling rather than a... lifestyle? something tangible? Since that moment I have thought of little else. I haven't written about my Mom'

Girl Gone Off: Wedding season - How to ruin your friend's wedding

Heather C Fazio

Feb 19, 2019
4 min

Girl Gone Off: Wedding season - How to ruin your friend's wedding

It's February so that means the spring wedding season is upon us. You have probably already received a Save the Date notice from your friend or family member (maybe several) and the invitation will be arriving soon. Immediately start contemplating what you can do to ruin the entire experience for your friend and their partner. Or maybe you weren't invited at all due to space or financial restrictions, but don't worry! You too can participate very easily. No? You don't want to

Girl Gone Off: R. Kelly - Step back a moment, please

Heather C Fazio

Jan 27, 2019
3 min

Girl Gone Off: R. Kelly - Step back a moment, please

There has been a lot of news in the last three weeks that has taken over most media and has been at the forefront of people's thoughts - New York State upholding Roe vs. Wade, the neglect and mistreatment of federal employees, a slew of white conservative men being arrested for mass murder and attempted terrorism, and finally, Trump getting his ass kicked by Pelosi. However one very serious conversation that has seemingly been ignored is R. Kelly's pedophilia and abuse of wom

Heather C Fazio

Nov 14, 2018
3 min

Could You Do It?

I’m a bit obsessed with serial killers, cults, gangs, prison life, anything of that nature. Whether it’s the group mentality of cults, gangs, prisons, or the singularity of being so cold-hearted, cold-blooded, so lacking in empathy that not only do you take human lives, but you explore creative and more evil ways to take those lives. This fascination started very young for me and I’m not sure why. To say I grew up in a calm house hold would be an outright lie, so maybe it’s t

Girl Gone Off: Opinion | Please Read This Before You Vote Today (Strong language)

Heather C Fazio

Nov 6, 2018
3 min

Girl Gone Off: Opinion | Please Read This Before You Vote Today (Strong language)

I'm not going to tell you which politicians to vote for, but I am going to suggest voting for me, for you, and for your children. I care about a lot of issues facing our country right now, but one in particular affects so many people and some don't even realize it yet. I'm talking about the move to take away protections for pre-existing conditions. Nov. 1, 2018 – Allowing insurance companies to exclude preexisting conditions from health insurance coverage could cost consumers