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Aug 5, 2020
11 min

Girl Gone Authentic: Not Just a Dog

I did not grow up in a “dog” household. We had a few cats during my childhood, but we never had dogs. I never understood why people acted like their dogs were their kids. I never understood why people would spend thousands of dollars on their dogs. They are just dogs, for goodness sake! My husband, however, grew up around dogs and had dogs throughout his adult life. He finds owning a dog (or dogs) virtually essential to his life. When we got together, his dogs were resid

Heather C Fazio

Jul 28, 2020
2 min

Girl Gone Smart: 97 days

There are only 97 days left until the 2020 election. Unfortunately, the president has put out a lot of misinformation so I want to ensure people understand how to vote. You may think it's as simple as heading to your local voting booth - and in many cases it is - however we're in the middle of a global pandemic and it's unclear what November may look like. It's vital to our country's landscape that you vote, and encourage your family and friends to do the same - regardless of

Girl Gone Local: Hate crime in Massena NY?

Heather C Fazio

Jul 27, 2020
3 min

Girl Gone Local: Hate crime in Massena NY?

If you're wondering why the title is Girl Gone Local and I'm not writing about Albany, then you're probably not aware I grew up in a pretty small town in Northern New York called Massena. It borders Canada (Cornwall Ontario) by about five miles. The last time I wrote about my hometown was because I wanted to do something, anything, to help friends receive some kind of income during this global pandemic. I started a virtual tip sheet where people could donate a few bucks here

Girl Gone Local: Unsolved mystery in upstate New York

Heather C Fazio

Jul 24, 2020
4 min

Girl Gone Local: Unsolved mystery in upstate New York

It wasn't until a few weeks ago I heard of this unsolved mystery, and on July 8, 2020 the Saratoga County Sheriff's Office marked the 27th anniversary of the murder of Betty Conley. A few days ago a friend reached out to me with a request to write about this story. It wasn't until 6am this morning I sat down to go through everything - videos, newspaper articles, and the Justice for Betty Conley Facebook group which I encourage you to join. About an hour ago, I had the opportu

Heather C Fazio

Jul 18, 2020
2 min

Girl Gone Smart: Yesterday was odd

Yesterday was an odd day because it was the two year anniversary of my Mom's passing. I was reflective, grieving, processing, and felt very loved by my friend who texted me in the morning saying she was thinking of me. She lost her Mom a few years ago too, but even so, it's rare someone besides yourself and family remember the date. I told her I wasn't sure how I wanted to spend the day and up to that point, I didn't really want to think about it at all. She reminded me there

Girl Gone Reading: Don’t fear the enemy who attacks you, fear the friend who hugs you

Heather C Fazio

Jun 29, 2020
3 min

Girl Gone Reading: Don’t fear the enemy who attacks you, fear the friend who hugs you

I won’t lie and tell you the cover and title of this book had absolutely nothing to do with my selection of this book. I just won’t – because it did. There's no question I'm a cat fanatic but black cats? Forget it - my personal goal is to save each and every one. That said, this isn't a book about cats or black cats - although we do meet a cat named Beelzebub. This collection is a group of short stories by author Michael Swanwick and I have to admit I was very surprised and h

Girl Gone Smart: Guest Post - Racism in a "nice" Albany neighborhood

Heather C Fazio

Jun 15, 2020
5 min

Girl Gone Smart: Guest Post - Racism in a "nice" Albany neighborhood

Guest post by Abbe Hanley, Language warning My earliest memory of racism is from elementary school. A boy told me my skin was “dirty like poop” and I believed him. I was maybe five years old and the only black kid in my school. This boy told me my beautiful brown skin was “dirty like poop,” and I believed him. I cannot imagine my mom’s heartbreak when I came home and asked her about it. I am a Black Woman and I am also Jewish. I have been the butt of jokes for longer than I c

Girl Gone Reading: The Shadow and Bone Trilogy

Heather C Fazio

Jun 14, 2020
2 min

Girl Gone Reading: The Shadow and Bone Trilogy

It feels like a luxury being able to step away from all that's going not just in our country, but around the world. I recognize that some need a break, because they're able to take one. If that's you, I've got a book series you're going to love. This is the first series I've read by author Leigh Bardugo and I was really impressed. I hadn't heard of her and I tend to read quite a bit of fantasy. Ms. Bardugo is a #1 New York Times bestselling author of fantasy and the creator o

Heather C Fazio

Jun 14, 2020
2 min

Girl Gone Smart: I have work to do

"No matter how open-minded, socially conscious, anti-racist I think I am, I still have old, learned, hidden biases I need to examine. It is my responsibility to check myself daily for my stereotypes, prejudice and ultimately discrimination." I don't know who originally authored this, but I read this on social media this morning and nothing has felt more accurate. It felt like a gut-punch - and it should. It made me uncomfortable but it reinforced what I've always believed and

Girl Gone Smart: Call to Action - Monday June 1 at 8pm - All of us, together.

Heather C Fazio

May 29, 2020
2 min

Girl Gone Smart: Call to Action - Monday June 1 at 8pm - All of us, together.

My friend and brother, Percy Thomas, is tired of just posting on social media We're all angry, frustrated, and want to do more than vent and share on Facebook and Twitter. He has come up with an idea I feel is pretty powerful. When I read his suggestion, I became emotional immediately and unless you don't have a heart, you will too. "We can say it's time to end this violence against unarmed black men. A way for others to get a slim idea what it was like for George Floyd. An o

Girl Gone Smart: Uncomfortable? Good. (Language warning.)

Heather C Fazio

May 28, 2020
4 min

Girl Gone Smart: Uncomfortable? Good. (Language warning.)

Self-awareness is a son-of-a-bitch but a necessary one. I finished the book White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo about a week ago and it makes me want to revise my post titled White People - please stop it. But I'm not going to because it's a reminder that every single day I need to learn, to grow, and to do/be better than the day before. “A vital, necessary, and beautiful book, a bracing call to white folk everywhere to see their whiteness for what it is and to seize the opport

Girl Gone Authentic: Shelter-in-Place Observations

Middle Aged Mama

May 22, 2020
5 min

Girl Gone Authentic: Shelter-in-Place Observations

I live in California, which was the first state to require all residents to shelter-in-place. We’ve been under this condition since March 19, 2020. I’ve heard and read about the negative aspects of shelter-in-place. While my family and I are experiencing some less-than-awesome parts of this situation, I can’t say it’s been completely awful. Overall, our family has really pulled together. We are more kind to each other than in times past, we have family dinners together e

Girl Gone Smart - Time is of the essence - Troy city schools dismantling reading program

Heather C Fazio

May 19, 2020
3 min

Girl Gone Smart - Time is of the essence - Troy city schools dismantling reading program

Tomorrow, May 20, Troy City School Superintendent John Carmello is proposing the removal of the entire Reading Department in the Troy city school district even though only 29% of the student population reads at their grade level. Research shows: Literacy is an essential skill for functioning in society. Dyslexia occurs in 1 out of 5 children in the United States and is the leading cause of reading failure and school dropouts in the country. Literacy professionals play crucial

Girl Gone Smart: Obama Commencement 2020

Heather C Fazio

May 17, 2020
1 min

Girl Gone Smart: Obama Commencement 2020

It started with one tweet from 17 year old Lincoln Debenham on Tuesday, April 14. "Hi @BarackObama! Like most high school/college seniors, I’m saddened by the loss of milestone events, prom & graduation. In an unprecedented time, it would give us great comfort to hear your voice. We ask you to consider giving a national commencement speech to the class of 2020." It turns out Mr. Debenham spoke for a nation. The tweet quickly went viral, and last night on May 16, 2020, Presid

Girl Gone Smart: White people - please stop it

Heather C Fazio

May 11, 2020
2 min

Girl Gone Smart: White people - please stop it

Look, I get that writing this may be doing exactly what I'm suggesting you stop doing, but it needs to be said. I don't care how "woke" you are or how woke you think you are, but your commentary on Ahmaud Arbery isn't helping. Your voice does not have a place unless it's to AMPLIFY black voices. Unless you are sharing and supporting what those voices are saying and have been saying for years, just stop. Five years ago I would have written a piece expressing my horror and cond

Girl Gone Smart: Parents, now is your chance to rid yourself of the pesky "liberal" education

Heather C Fazio

May 6, 2020
2 min

Girl Gone Smart: Parents, now is your chance to rid yourself of the pesky "liberal" education

So very often I see adults complaining about the "liberal" education their children are getting in the New York State public school system and more often, in colleges around the country. Conservative parents: Now that most (all?) schools in NYS have announced closure until the fall, you can educate them how you wish! Skip all those fancy liberal science classes. You don't need your kids to understand biology or chemistry. Why? Because these classes entail experimentation wher

Girl Gone Smart: My breast biopsy experience (language warning)

Heather C Fazio

May 5, 2020
4 min

Girl Gone Smart: My breast biopsy experience (language warning)

I wasn't going to write about this because it feels too personal, but a friend reached out after I had checked in to St. Peter's Hospital in Albany a couple weeks ago. I regret that now because a lot of folks messaged and it wasn't really anything I wanted to talk about after. I think I was just sharing an anxiety moment at the time. I was more afraid of being at the hospital during the time of Covid-19 than the reason I had to go. But her own message of fear and asking me to

Girl Gone Smart: A recipe for the perfect shot

Heather C Fazio

Apr 28, 2020
2 min

Girl Gone Smart: A recipe for the perfect shot

I've watched my friend Amy go though an amazing physical and emotional transformation in the last few years. I've always loved and adored her, but lately, she has become an inspiration and possibly my (and your) savior. During this quarantine I haven't been able to go to the gym, the weather has my inflammation way up, and I'm simply not moving as much as I used to. On Sunday I put on a bathing suit for the first time since November and I'm starting to expand in all sorts of

Girl Gone Authentic: Mother/Daughter relationships can be complicated

Middle Aged Mama

Apr 3, 2020
6 min

Girl Gone Authentic: Mother/Daughter relationships can be complicated

I’ve written about many of the relationships in my life. I’ve written about my husband, my ex-husband, my husband’s ex-wife, my teenage daughter, etc. One relationship that I haven’t written about is what may be the most complicated that I’m in – the relationship between me and my mother. I’m the oldest of four children. My parents got married at the age of 19, when they found out they were expecting me. I figured this out when I was approximately 10 years old (when I no

Girl Gone Local: Massena NY, Update to Virtual Tipping - EXPANDED

Heather C Fazio

Mar 27, 2020
2 min

Girl Gone Local: Massena NY, Update to Virtual Tipping - EXPANDED

Good morning everyone. In the last few days, several people have reached out asking how they can be included in the Massena Virtual Tipping database for bartenders. The "issue" is they are in a different profession, but still rely on tips to supplement their income. One exception though, and some may argue with this, but I really don't care. If you are a nurse, add yourself. You deserve more than what you are currently receiving, and it's possible people may want to do more t