A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about how getting old sucks. To be fair, though, there are parts of getting older that are totally awesome. I’m going to write about those things in this post.
For one thing, I’m settled in my career. I’ve been with the Federal Government for over 25 years, and I have established myself as a well-respected expert in my field. I have a solid reputation. People seek out my opinion. When I started out, I was only 20 years old and tended to be dismissed as being “too young” to know anything. I’ve come a long way from the college student with no life experience.
I’m more financially secure than in my 20s. I make decent money, and since my kids are mostly grown, I’m no longer paying for things like daycare, multiple kids’ sports/activities, clothing for multiple children, etc. More of my money can go for “fun” things like pedicures, massages, overnight getaways with David, and other indulgences.
My days of changing (and buying!) thousands of diapers is over. Also, I no longer worry about daycare while I’m working, or about getting a babysitter if David and I want to go out to dinner or to a movie. I don’t have to do so much juggling of child-raising like I did when I had multiple school-age children.
Being a grandparent is fabulous. I love having her come over, listening to her tell me all sorts of funny stories, taking her on fun activities, and spoiling her. I love seeing parts of her father come out through her mannerisms. It’s all the fun parts of parenting without the challenges and tribulations of parenting. It’s great!
Best of all, though, I’m so much more confident than I was when I was younger. My body was better and my skin smoother when I was younger; however, being older has brought me a level of self-confidence that I didn’t think was possible. I don’t worry about things that used to cause me angst when I was younger because I know that life has a way of working out. I have more sexual confidence as well.
It’s not that I didn’t have any confidence before, but now I’m not afraid to ask for what I want and/or expect. I’m not worried about David withholding love or affection if I voice an opinion that is contrary to his. I don’t worry about him finding me sexually attractive now that my body isn’t as good as it was because I know that there is more to sexuality than firm boobs and a tight butt.
Being old is awesome!